Let's take a quick break from all the physical fabulosity and focus on our inner Gawd/Gawdess for a second.
It's the New Year, which for a lot of people, means you get a new lease on life. We make resolutions, create vision boards, set goals for ourselves and make proclamations and declarations about the rest of our lives. It's time for the New Year, New Me posts!
You know what's more annoying than those posts? The people knocking them down. Maybe you should try becoming a "New You," because this current you ain't right.
Coco Quote: "Flowers don't grow in shade. "
For most people, the New Year is a great time to start taking steps towards your goals and put your plans into action. The change in date signifies the end of one part of our life and the beginning of another, whether we're prepared for it or not. It's also a great way to track your progress. Think about how important the first of the month is if you work in finance, if your rent is due that day, if you're getting that check from the government! (No shade boo!) So why wouldn't the first of the year be just as important?
In actuality, you SHOULD adopt the "New Year, New Me" ideology. Every day, every month, every year. Because if you're the same you as last week or last year, you're doing it wrong. You should, at the very least, want to be better.
Coco Note: Life is like basketball, it's all about the follow-through.
That being said, I should probably mention that I stopped making New Years Resolutions a few years ago. I also stopped celebrating the New Year as MY new year. (It's still my Independence Day, hello to my Haitian gawds and gawdesses!) No one grows at the same rate, so how can we all define the same day as our personal new year?
My New Year is still the same day every year, it's just not January 1st. It's November 4th, the day I was born. Celebrating my own New Year allows me to see what progress I've made on a more personal level. I'm a whole year older, so I can reflect on what I've learned in the 12 months preceding, and what I hope (or need) to learn in the 12 months following. For example, this year I told myself "Delfine, you cannot be 23 without a real savings account." True story.
When you set your own New Year, there's no pressure of competing with anyone or comparing your goals to anyone else's. You're working on your own timeline, the same way life works. And at the end of your year, you can celebrate YOU on your own special day.
Although my new year is different, I still set goals for myself. Instead of resolutions, I set themes for the year, and for life. This allows me wiggle room, because the term "resolution" denotes finality, and life isn't always black or white.
res·o·lu·tionˌrezəˈlo͞oSH(ə)n/noun noun: resolution; plural noun: resolutions
1. a firm decision to do or not to do something.
"she kept her resolution not to see Anne any more"
2. the action of solving a problem, dispute, or contentious matter.
"the peaceful resolution of all disputes"
You can express what you aim to do or what you would like to happen, but things change. Maybe you'll want to downsize in 6 months, maybe you'll turn all the way up and surpass your goal.
Here are my themes for 2015!
1. Show Up and Show Out
It's not enough to just show up anymore, you have to show OUT. This year I want to get up, get dressed and be great everyday. In work, in church, in my friendships, in my relationships, on Youtube and on the blog.
2. Year of the Coin
2015 is the Year of the Coin for me. New Year, New Money. I'm all about saving and the road to becoming debt-free this year. I've started by opening a savings account. To put my money where my mouth is, quite literally this time, I've already put money into the account and set up bi-weekly automatic deposits from my checking into my savings. I've also paid off my store credit cards. (Damn you, Victoria's Secret!)
3. At the Same Damn Time
If you know me, you know how much I hate to hear people say they need to focus on X part of their life before they can achieve/focus on Y. I'm seriously lacking in patience, so that's definitely not my life. I want everything that I want and I want it all at the same time. A great career, a great relationship, good friends, good health, an amazing blog and an inspiring and educational Youtube. It's up to me to get it, and I will. At the same damn time.
4. RIP | Rest In Prayer
I am a child of God, covered in the Blood of the Lamb. With all the plans I have, I have got to stay prayed up.
Setting themes for the year allows me to make achieving my goals part of my daily life. Every action I take should be in line with these themes. For example, getting health, taking care of my body, getting enough sleep and excelling at work are all part of Showing Up and Showing Out AND having everything I want At The Same Damn Time. Throughout MY year, I can adjust my specific goals to fit what each of these themes mean to me at any point in time. As I grow, what I want and how I choose to obtain it will change. Instead of scratching a resolution of my list, I can adjust my theme and carry on, avoiding that feeling of failure.
I encourage you to make some themes of your own. Comment and let me know what they are :)